*Who are you NOW?* That's the right way to think about it. The ancient wisdom about how you can only step in the same river once is one of the most sacred and accurate pieces of truth to me. And I believe it is quite true in the kink space, too. For example, a sub can only be whipped (near) mercilessly for the first time in a dark bar that is still open during the Covid pandemic once, and then afterwards, either the domme needs to change things up gradually, or the sub needs to look for something else. As it happened, a little bit of both.
*Who are you? Be you authentic self?* One's authentic self is always changing.
But, hell, I didn't even know what my authentic self was before I embraced my kink. I did know that I was submissive and that I was infatuated by dominant women. But I didn't really know what it was to be dominated by a woman. It took years of experimentation--slowly at first, but then accelerated by the pandemic and things--until I finally got over my senseless shame and jumped into trying things out. I thought I'd be scared by wax play for example. I loved it. But, more importantly, the whole experience made me realize I'd been holding back in life too much. That I should go out and try things I want to try, challenge my limits, be fearless, and live as I want to live.
Thank you for sharing that experience! And it's true ... our authentic self is always growing, always evolving. We have to give it the space it needs to do so.
*Who are you NOW?* That's the right way to think about it. The ancient wisdom about how you can only step in the same river once is one of the most sacred and accurate pieces of truth to me. And I believe it is quite true in the kink space, too. For example, a sub can only be whipped (near) mercilessly for the first time in a dark bar that is still open during the Covid pandemic once, and then afterwards, either the domme needs to change things up gradually, or the sub needs to look for something else. As it happened, a little bit of both.
*Who are you? Be you authentic self?* One's authentic self is always changing.
But, hell, I didn't even know what my authentic self was before I embraced my kink. I did know that I was submissive and that I was infatuated by dominant women. But I didn't really know what it was to be dominated by a woman. It took years of experimentation--slowly at first, but then accelerated by the pandemic and things--until I finally got over my senseless shame and jumped into trying things out. I thought I'd be scared by wax play for example. I loved it. But, more importantly, the whole experience made me realize I'd been holding back in life too much. That I should go out and try things I want to try, challenge my limits, be fearless, and live as I want to live.
Thank you for sharing that experience! And it's true ... our authentic self is always growing, always evolving. We have to give it the space it needs to do so.